Boy Toys: Dismantling the Stigma Surrounding Masturbation Cups
What’s the big deal about guys using sex toys, particularly Fleshlights? Well, it depends who you ask.
The silence surrounding female masturbation has certainly done its damage to how we think about female pleasure, but thanks to something of a self-pleasure revolution (that we were happy to be part of), more and more people think of female masturbation as no big deal, or in fact, very normal and pretty awesome.
However, while attitudes toward male masturbation as a fact of life have long been held, there has also been a somewhat pervasive idea that it’s something to laugh about – or worse, that it’s somehow pathetic. This stigma sticks particularly to the use of sex toys, and is one that we’re just as keen to dismantle.
What’s the Big Deal?
If we were going to get into the business of adult picture books, we would call our first one ‘Everybody Masturbates.’ Or at least, a majority of people do. How often and how exactly they go about pursuing their solo sexual satisfaction – now that can vary a lot.
We can speak first hand when it comes to the popularity of prostate massagers and yet when it comes to a certain type of male sex toy – referred to colloquially as everything from Fleshlights (a brand name) to a truck driver’s best friend – there is an odd prevalence of the idea that if your hand works fine, purchasing a product like this is somehow indicative that the user is ‘too invested’ in their masturbation (read: weird).
Quite honestly, you could apply the same logic to anything – someone who dyes their hair is ‘too invested’ in how they look, when their natural color is just fine, for example. You really don’t need any other justification other than the fact that it feels good – some people are willing to spend a little extra time and effort to feel good and some aren’t.
(By the way, this says nothing of the fact that assuming everyone has the same masturbation ability when it comes to using their hands – sex when you have grip or mobility issues is certainly not impossible, just sometimes extra creative!)
Eggs, Sleeves & Cups
Right, so now that you’re convinced that judgements about how people msaturbate and whether they use toys or not have no business being in your bedroom, let’s talk about the different types of toys are available.
The term ‘Fleshlight’ is often used as an umbrella term to refer to a wide range of sex toys for male masturbation – kind of how we call most facial tissue ‘Kleenex’ – which the penis is put into while masturabting. They use a variety of textures and pressures to mimic your orifice of choice, and voila!
However, that particular style of masturbation sleeve that Fleshlight deals in – rigid outer casing with a squishy, removeable inside – has some definite drawbacks. For one, many of them are quite heavy, and quite expensive. If you’re not sure if you’d like the sensation of masturbation toy like this, we’d suggest checking out masturbation eggs – they’re small squishy ‘eggs’ that are designed for single use (you can clean then but they won’t hold up to that many uses).
If your previous experience with sex toys has been with those of the vibrating massager variety with a partner, and you wish you could have something like that, but designed for your body, then you’re in luck!
BLOWHOLE is a masturbation cup like the likes of which you won’t have seen before. Its shallow design focuses supersized vibrations around the head of your penis, and doesn’t require any thrusting on your part. And, even better, it can be controlled by the REMOJI app, which means not only do you not have to fiddle with buttons on the device to change the power or patterns, you can also hand off the controls to a partner and let them push your buttons!
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